Being a by-stander to a train-wreck of a hot mess !

How many of us have seen someone we know just fall prey to bad things ?

I bet the number constitutes at least 90% .

I , for one, have seen many ( and taking into account my ignorance of everything not related to me , its saying something) .

We try and try to get them to let go and yes, sometimes out of sheer luck we do succeed but most of the time, we fail !

I thought I failed too but what I  came to realize later is that it was not my test to fail .

Its like me and that person , in an examination hall , sitting next to each other and having an entirely different paper. While I have the knowledge to help that someone else pass this test ( and my willingness, which is rare ! ) ,  despite my best efforts to help them try to achieve it , the other person may not even be able to understand me.

Which surprisingly (not ! ) , is true in most of the cases.

( Also the above may suggest that me not being a good cheater, the fact though still remains. Their test and them not asking for help, makes it none-of-my-business ! )

Similarly, it is their life, their decisions, their mistakes, their triumphs. Relative to this, we are just by-standers ; allowed to have an opinion and even shout that opinion in their faces. ( as long as we expect it to be followed by ignorance on their part obviously . )

I have myself made bad decisions ( who hasn’t ? )and in hindsight I wish someone would have shouted some things in my face too, but in hindsight I have also realized that I would have just as easily ignored them as I would my homework.

Only thing WE can do is be there for them. I am not asking you to support their decisions because that ish is effed up but only to let them know that whatever happens, and whenever they are ready, you will be there for them.

( Queue the Awwwww ! )

Last but not the least …

Live and Let live !

( despite the jackasses they are ! )

Love everybody

(but don’t smother anyone with that love )

LATERS, BABY !

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#GirlLove challenge

I got up late ,

obviously didn’t go to college

and well more or less , there on after,

cuddled in my quilt all warm and comfy.

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So here I am, little old me , browsing the YouTube

(as one does when one is bored) ,

and suddenly I come across one of my favorite you-tuber,

iisuperwomanii a.k.a. Lilly Singh’s video on ” Girl on Girl hate:” .

Now you know that I go to a girl’s college

and needless to say that with all the girls around,

some cats are bound to be rattled and some fights are bound to ensue.

(  and yes, boys and some girls , that is an image ! )

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ME? I am a certified Unicorn just like my home girl Lilly and you know me, I like painting them rainbows all around too much to get into a fight.

 Therefore ,here I am (out of my quilt , just for y’all) writing on a serious topic.

( I do that sometimes you know, get serious I mean.

It’s rare but it happens. )

Moving on …

If you are a girl, you have experienced THE jealousy, enviousness, superior complex, inferior complex and a whole lot more !

Hell , even if you are a guy you have most likely experienced those things!

And I bet my soon- to -be -bought -hover-board

(A fact ?  I am very serious about that hover-board

and it doesn’t matter if future is probably twenty years later ),

that you have judged other people.

I’ll be the first to say that I have too .

And to be honest , its more of a reflex.

In my defense, it is empirical that one observe one’s surrounding and science says surrounding include humans so there you go.

I rest my case .

'Your honor, SHHHHHHHHHHH. Can't you see the defense rests?'

Considering that a judgement now has been passed,

its stands to reason that one goes on to publicize it.

In layman’s term,

IT’S TIME TO BITCH.

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I am a girl ( obviously a little tom-boyish but still a girl )

and trust me when I say that nobody loves bitching and gossiping more than girls.

NOBODY .

It is hard to explain but if I were to do it,

purely for the purpose of this post ,

I would conclude that we get a certain high from  it.

Hence , the commencement ( see me, using all the big words) of girl on girl hate.

So, keeping all this in mind,  Lilly Singh ( Lilly with the double L’s ) introduced #GirlLove.

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#GirlLove is an idea.

It is an idea to spread love and get over this feeling of jealousy, inadequacy and insecurity.

If you know someone who is better than you,  learn from them.

You are your unique self and they are theirs.

What is good should be complimented and what is better should be praised.

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Ok then !

I should stop rambling now !

And you , you go watch the video.

The challenge is to come back and compliment a person in the comment section.

As for me, I would like to compliment a girl I used to know ;Saima , who was better at poetry than me ( you are judging but anyhooo… )

I was jealous but you girl , you were something !

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Concluding this post,

Last but not the least,

Admire but not hate!

Be inspired and not discouraged!

Spread love!

And compliment others once in a while , its a great feeling to see that smile on their face !

NO GIRL HATE

RESOLUTION : nop

PROMISE : yes

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All the money made from the views of this video goes to the Malala Fund !

So do watch it !

Peace Out !

They ask…

WHAT IS WRONG WITH BEING WHO YOU WERE ?

I want to be better.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH WHO YOU ARE NOW ?

I don’t know who I am now.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH WHO YOU WANT TO BE ?

you ! 😦

I am back…

To the people who read my blogs – hello from the other side.

To the ones who don’t – we will get there !

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You all must be wandering what will this kind soul who loves everybody

be bringing to your doorstep today.

Well, wonder no more !

I bring you NOTHING , absolutely nothing !

(well, for this post and also because Santa doesn’t trust me,

says I am all mischief ,

I don’t know what the eff he is talking about )

Oh wait..Maybe this

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(you saw it girl, you saw it first !

and maybe boys too )

Life as I told you in my last post took a turn

as it always does when exams take over.

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My turned road though to be honest just runs parallel to the old one

as I don’t to do anything differently than before.

Now you must be wandering that

OMG ! she studies regularly that is why it is all the same.

Now I hate to dissolve this goody-two-shoes image you have of me in your mindand just say it is the opposite.

Not that studying regularly is a bad things ,

its just that I have so much better things to do.

Like talking to you !

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Anyhoo, as to how did my exams go,

they were fine , they were okay.

It was my first MAJOR so its all good.

Now like I said I am back.

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And it seems like I missed a lot of things.

Chennai, You my south homie and I pray for you

( even if you weren’t I would) !

My sympathy doesn’t needs to be validated in the form of a post

but yes, know that we are there for you !

Effing hell, there are a lot of goods and evils in this world

and you can’t ignore either one of them.

And also you can’t excuse one for the other.

It is utter B.S.

But we gotta keep moving on and that is what we are doing.

STAR WARS..

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see what I did there ?? !!

Now, its winter break or what the other half likes to call Christmas break.

My plans are to catch up with my old friends and on the other days,

stay in bed because it is freezing here

( I am probably exaggerating but I have sensitive skin

or is that even a valid excuse?

Gawd ! whatevah, I am just staying in bed )

My sis is here, so there will be a lot of fights going on .

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See ya peeps in the next post.

(if I dare survive )

Till then

LIVE AND LET LIVE

LOVE EVERBODY

(even if they make you get out of the bed.)

(COMING MOM ! )

BAAAAIIIEEEE !!

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Exams in 3..2..Oh wait SELFIE !…1

IT is a truth universally acknowledged, that a person in possession of a social media account must be in want of a DP ! 

Hence, the running around , making different (weird ) poses so that you can have that ‘ONE’ selfie !

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And yes, I was doing exactly that.

Gasp!

And to think I have my semester exams in 3 days .

Gee, I am just the perfect role model aren’t I ?

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Never-mind you , that was rhetorical question!

And yes I am stalling.

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Urghh okay fine, gotta go.

Got that big exam to study for .

Apparently that is what you do before an exam .

I didn’t know that.

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Yeah yeah I am aware I am doing it again.

Okay GOING ….

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GONE GIRL ! (pun-intended)

ENVIOUS ANYBODY ??

There are SO many thing in this world that I want to do, most of them bordering idiotic but I want to do them anyway.

In fact there are so many things in my bucket list that they can’t even fit into a bucket.

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I know !

But sometimes and under some conditions, circumstances and situations we are not able to accomplish those dreams.

Obviously then we are sad

but to put a cherry on the top of the cake

somehow and from somewhere ( for eg. from our personal hell a.k.a. facebook  )

a bomb drops quoting in a calligraphic handwriting that so and so person is now doing so and so thing

that YOU already reserved the right to do !

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then comes the phases…….

PHASE 1 : SHOCK AND HEART WRENCHING SADNESS

You feel betrayed, shocked and sad.

It is a betrayal like no other ,

even if the person didn’t know that you wanted to do or be that thing

from the bottom of your heart !

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PHASE 2 : JEALOUSY

You feel extremely jealous

because it was you who had dreams about accomplishing that thing

and somebody else just comes in hacks your dreams

and go their merry effing way.

Oh hell no !

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And then you start hating that person for a little time

like a second or maybe 2 minutes,

depends on how close you are to that person.

PHASE 3 :ENVIOUS MODE

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Now because your heart is not in agreement with your brain

and since brain is scared that the heart will stop sending blood to him

( seriously heart is an epic physical and emotional blackmailer )

you start obsessing over the fact that somebody else is accomplishing things in your place.

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You start portraying yourself as that person and imagine all of the things that would have happened

if you were in his or her place !

PHASE 4: ACCEPTANCE

Finally you are able to adapt to the fact that somebody else gets to live your dreams

and you are thus no longer jealous of that person

but still envious and ready to move on.

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PHASE 5 : MOVING ON

Now you have moved on

and don’t even remember this thing happened because frankly

ain’t anybody got time for that !

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And after a long long time you are normal again and have stopped PMS-ing !

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hallelujah !

AND THEN

something else happens that triggers the above mentioned phases all over again

and my dear folks you are screwed all over again .

But

you should always know that its okay ,

in fact its human to go through all of these phases,

you do not need to hate yourself for that

but what you should understand is that you have a life,

others do too but that is only where the similarities end.

Live YOUR life .

do not imagine yourself in others.

envy yourself and thou shall move forward.

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ALL THE SELF-ISH STUFF !!

There a lot of words in English dictionary that starts with the word SELF.

for example: SELF-CONFIDENCE , SELF-ESTEEM, SELF-RELIANT, SELF-EFFICACY, SELF-EFFICIENT, SELF-DETERMINATION

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In short all of the words you can think of and then put a self in front !

Or what I like to call them all the SELF-ish words !

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I have met a lot of people who qualify in many of these fields and some do extra-ordinary in them

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but there are a lot of people who don’t !

And personally I do have some of those self-ish qualities and I do lack in some of them !

And I am not going to bullshit you by saying its ok !

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We all have gone through our fair share of problems, some more than the others

and we have more shit to go through.

Therefore I think its better to have every weapon in your arsenal,

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metaphorically not literally !

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We try to overcome our shortcomings but sometimes we are just too involved and devoted.

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yes, really !

I know you think we should actually be those things and achieve something but how much of an involvement is better ?

Because there will be times when we have to pick ourselves up and dust ourselves out and I am pretty sure I don’t want to be crying at that point and embarrass myself more !

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And when we are too involved we tend to make everything personal and in the process lose some traits that we already did possess like the feeling of self-worth !

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And some that don’t even try are either very lazy or just don’t think that it will be worth it in the end.

I have learned something during my process of becoming SELF-ish.

and I am going to share it with you.

  • Surround yourself with good people and if you don’t have any in your life find new ones because the world is not exactly doomed.
  •  Be selfish at times when the situation warrants it because it is needed !
  • Have faith !
  • Don’t become too attached to the cause because then you would just want to quit every single time you fail because you don’t want to feel the failure !
  • Except things and have the ability to move on !
  • Fight until and unless you come out a winner !
  • And enjoy every moment of it whether its ups or downs !

Be yourself.

Live and Let live.

Love everybody !

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